Being with others is about being present and accepting of who they really are, and are not.
It is Love.
Easier said than done.
The human personality is wired to be conflicted with others and within itself. So how do we get to the higher ground that sees with the bird’s eye view, the wholeness of our one-ness?
Silence. Being in silence with another is being willing to venture into the unknown together. Conversation and words are distractions from really experiencing wholeness –
In the silence we each discard our perceived differences and barriers that separate us.
Passing Through the Eye of the Needle 